What women who completed the program have said to James

James, I am blessed beyond distress! I have an entire army of armoured troops standing with me, and in front of me when the storms come. I’ve been with the same loving man for 51 years; we were married at 19 and 25. We’ve had some rough spots but never ANYTHING we can’t handle as a team…he’s “my person.” I do enjoy your group and posts. It has helped me further develop my marital relationship. Love and blessings, Martha 🌺

Dear James, This is the first time I have replied to one of your outstanding emails. Your insights and advice have literally saved my one-year relationship from going down in ruins as so many in my past have done. I join the chorus of voices who praise your talents. I almost destroyed what I have by going through exactly what you describe in Destructive Abundance. When he first called me, I was over-the-moon thrilled. A month later when I accused him of not calling often enough, the self-sabotage began. Learning about Anxious Attachment and your steady stream of coaching emails changed my expectations. I took responsibility for my fears. Now we are growing in love – healthy love. Thank you for helping me. By the way, we are both 80 years old, so old patterns can emerge no matter what age you are. You don’t just grow out of old fears; you learn to take on the challenges of changing self – not your partner. In closing, I sold my house today. I was disappointed I didn’t get more money even though I made a large profit on the sale. I expressed this to my partner and he encouraged me to be content with what transpired and feel free now to enjoy our future together. Amazing what a change in perspective can do! Always appreciative, Linda

Hi James, I purchased your course yesterday and got to module 6 last night. Just from the introduction video I could see what I had done to make a male friend (whom I would like to be more than a friend) pull away from me. How I had switched off his hero instinct by being too independent and not allowing him to win with me. Situations where he was almost pleading to let him help me and I didn’t let him. I sent him a message last night using some of the things you’d mentioned, just telling him I really appreciated him and everything he’s done for me, and that I couldn’t imagine my life without him in it.. in whatever capacity he chooses that to be. I am amazed at the increase in frequency of messages and replies from him, maybe it’s not too broken to fix.. you have given me hope and that’s something that’s been very short in my life over the last few years. I’m going to continue the course later when I finish work.. a lot of these things I did automatically when he and I became friends but I allowed my emotions and insecurities to change that. I’m looking forward to learning more but just wanted to tell you what’s happened so far. Your little section where you explain depression has also helped me hugely, by not allowing myself hope I have been making my depression so much worse!! You changed that yesterday.. thank you. Many thanks, Lorna

I have gotten incredible value from your book on the hero instinct. I’ve been a fan of evolutionary psychology for a long time, but had never seen it being used for practical relationship advice. Thank you! Great job on adding incredible value to the world.

This is just a note to say how much I appreciate James Bauer’s wise and steady advice. Thanks, Cynthia

Omg, I’m seeing effects already from your tips!!!!! 😍💕😍💕😍💕 Thank yooou,

Dear James, I just wanted to thank you for the tremendous help that your book gave me. I have learned something very important from it and in allowing this new knowledge to shape my communication, I reached out to the man I love and who had been silent for weeks in such a way that he responded within a couple of hours. This means to me more than you can possibly imagine. Thank you, thank you, thank you! With deep gratitude and best wishes, Alice

I texted him those 12 words. Genius! You are my hero.

I have to say, I was “friends” with a man who said he didn’t want a committed relationship, then I bought this program, and now we are engaged. He only wants to be with me and he told me he has turned in his “player’s card.” His Facebook profile says in a relationship for the very first time! He introduced me to his family and told them he is done being a player. Listen to the experts! Thank you RiRi

I just want to tell you that I am so grateful I came across your book, His Secret Obsession. I been reading a lot of stuff on Pinterest about how do you know your man is in love with you, or he is the one if he does this things….. He portrays the man that loves me and that he is husband material and what not. But sometimes I feel so insecure that one day he would just forget about me or replace me. Until one day I came across your book. Reading it makes a lot of sense because I have been doing the strategies and that’s when I feel like he is so in love with me, I just wasn’t aware. Now that I’m aware on what to do and what not to do, our relationship went to the next level. He sees me in his future, he is making plans for us and envisioning what our house is going to be, our life when we grow old, he is considering things I like and want. We used to talked about the past, our struggles and our complains about life. Now we are talking about the future. That’s a big change!!! I feel like I’m doing all right and not compromising who I am and my happiness. So with that being said, your book is a life saver and game changer. I’m going to share this to my homegirls. Aira

Hey I listened to your book…His Secret Obsession! It’s simply amazing! I had been texting with this one guy for like 5 months…he always said that he wanted to meet up but when I’d invite him he’d always have excuses! I sent him the twelve word txt message the other day…and guess what! He texted back faster then I’d ever seen! Like he was ready to see the message the minute it hit his phone!(that was after 3 to 4 days of no contact.) And after that things changed drastically! Now he’s the one that’s always talking about meeting up n making things happen! He told me the other night that I was different…and that with me he let his guards down n that I was the only girl that actually made him wanna take the risk and fall in love again! Bless you James! You’re doing a wonderful work! Keep it up!